Last August, I embarked on writing a new novel, Gabriel, that was a first for me in many ways. It was the time I have written a novel-length M/M romance. It was the first time I had tackled romantic suspense, and it was the first time I had written anything, save for academic papers and such, that did not include spanking. I’ll be honest, for me, trying to write a vanilla couple was far more challenging than moving from M/F to M/M. However, I soon discovered that for other people that wasn’t necessarily the case. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been asked since then why I, as a heterosexual female, would write books about gay men.
Truthfully, I didn’t think that much about it. It wasn’t much of a shift for me. I’ve been reading M/M romances for years. In my mind, stories are stories, and characters are characters. The gender and/or sexual preference of that character, while important, is a secondary detail. It’s no more important than whether my hero or heroine has black hair or brown hair or blue eyes or brown eyes. Who they are is important, the body that person comes in, not so much. (I don’t mean this to be in any way dismissive of the struggles that come when dealing with nonnormative gender or sexuality. I’m a disabled, demi-sexual with a discipline kink. I know just a little bit about the struggle myself.)
The more I thought about it, however, I wondered if my comfort level with both M/F and M/M romance stemmed from the fact that I identify as demi-sexual. I’m not going to go into a lot of detail about what that means. If it’s a new term for you, see my post on it here. The gist of it is
For me, physical attraction comes secondary to emotional attraction. Maybe that’s why the gender of the people involved doesn’t matter to me nearly as much as the emotional content.
Secondly, I’m a huge fan of domestic discipline or discipline partnership stories (which are pretty much the same thing, but in my observation, the M/F community refers to them as DD whereas the M/M sometimes uses DD and sometimes DP). As a reader, I found far more M/M stories available on the Internet than I did M/F so I read a lot of M/M. It just so happened that the first original stories I wrote were M/F and sold to a publisher who only wanted that type of story so they took the forefront for a while. At the moment, I actually have two M/M DD series in the works as well as a M/F novella. I will probably always go back and forth between the two since I have no real preference.
What about you? Do you read both or solely one or the other? Inquiring minds want to know.